5 Things that Saved my Marriage

When my husband and I first met we fell in love immediately. We had a blast together whether we were out and about, or doing nothing at all. We literally married after four weeks of dating! Yes, I said it..1 month. While I don’t necessarily recommend doing that for the simple fact that we did not know each other. But if you ask me today,  I most certainly would not say we made a mistake. Were there problems along the way? Obviously, yes, and a lot of them. It was not easy and we both made a lot of mistakes, but we both learned so much. Here are 5 simple things we changed, that had we not, we wouldn’t still be together today.

  1. Apologize. When you say I’m sorry, you are taking ownership. You are owning up to the truth that what you did or said was wrong. You are also acknowledging. You are acknowledging your spouse and his/her feelings and letting them know they are important. Saying those two words is simple, but can speak volumes.
  2. Compromise. You have to understand that though you are married, you are still two totally different people. Your interests are going to vary. In-fact, those differences are probably a big factor as to why you fell in love with your spouse in the first place. It is important to still allow each other to be who you are individually. Go places,  and do things together that may not be your cup of tea. I used to hate football for example, but I loved watching my husband do what he loves to do. Now, I can’t wait for football season to start up again. It took me three years to feel this way, but you might be surprised at what a little compromise can do.
  3. Don’t take each other so seriously. We all have out pet peeves, and granted, we need to have respect for the spouse we live with. Sharing living space is downright difficult at times. You find you have way different habits, for example, my husband likes the dark, and I want the curtains open. We have come to a place where we can share our surroundings comfortably. I do not always get my way and he doesn’t either. But I promise, it used to start another world war every time. My husband also tends to be a jokester and I, on the other hand, tend to be very serious. I had to learn to let some of what he said to go in one ear, and out the other.
  4. Laugh. Laugh. Laugh. This one is big! We all want a happy home and to always get along with our significant other, but the truth is life is hard. There will be financial pressure, kid pressure, job pressure, whatever the case, you can count on life bringing pressure. But in the midst of all of this strife do not forget why you married in the first place. Laugh at his jokes still. Laugh when you make mistakes. One of my personal favorites is to laugh when we are about to have a full blown argument. I laugh at the situation, before I know it he laughs because I laughed. Sometimes laughter can be used to totally diffuse a situation before it has a chance to escalate.
  5. Time. Take time to love. Don’t get too busy for each other. Make time for a date, get in the kitchen together to cook a meal. Don’t let life cheat you out of your marriage by being too busy. If you are that busy consider slowing down, after-all, you promised you would be there for each other when you took  your vows. Keeping that promise is worth the time.

20 thoughts on “5 Things that Saved my Marriage

  1. I agree with all, except #2. I stopped compromising about two years ago and things actually have gone very well lol People think I’m nutz when I tell them I no longer compromise, but I’m telling you, it’s part of why our marriage is going well now. Think I might’ve compromised too much in the first 10-15 years, so maybe, as I write this, balance of compromise is key. Thanks for this list Shanna!

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  2. Struggling with #5, taking time. Trying to figure out what to prune so the family can be more available to each other. So important. Thanks for the thoughtful post.

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      1. No problem!
        I have not even been able to get round to anything blog related lately but I hope to be able to get back in “the works” sometime soon. I’m glad the app “dings reminders like this once in a while 😉

        Have a GREAT day! ❤

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